To do without

Ever found yourself wondering if you can do without your best friend(s) or your boyfriend(s)/girlfriend(s)? Well, you can. 

The idea that a person cannot live without another person is just ridiculously stupid. People leave. That’s life. All you have to do is understand life well enough and prepare yourself for the worst. The feeling you get? About something lasting forever? That feeling is a lie. What you should be thinking/feeling is: It COULD last forever and that you sure as hell wish it does, but life can be a real bitch sometimes. Weigh the possibilities, think hard before you go ahead and start depending on other people. Not because you won’t move on even if you depend on that person(and that person ends up dying/leaving you), it’s just that it will be a lot easier to move on if you didn’t depend on that person in the first place. 

I am not saying don’t get attached to someone. Being attached to people is good. Just know where to draw the line. Sharing your feelings with people close to you might give you a peace of mind and strength to face problems (the fact that you are not alone). That’s great. All you have to do is keep in mind that you might someday be alone, and you have to be stronger to face your own problems. Someday. Just some day. But don’t fear it. Don’t be so afraid of the day that you might be alone, ‘cause if you are lucky, that day might never come. All you have to do is be prepared if the day does come, ‘cause then all you have to do is chuckle and whisper “I told you so” to yourself when compared to killing yourself or going into depression. People say being cautious ruins the essence of life. All I’m saying is if that essence is meant to be bitter and extremely unsatisfactory, I don’t want it. I’d rather be cautious than die wishing I was stronger. 

It will be a really stupid world if there were just a few people who were right to be your best friends/partners. In a world that gives us so many options from choosing a shirt/dress to choosing our life partners through a stupid TV show, the window of opportunities is only growing in size. It is true. “There ARE plenty of fish in the sea”. All you have to do is open your eyes to that possibility of your friends/loved ones being replaced by others.

Depending on someone as though your life depends on it is equivalent to digging your own grave

If there’s something I fear, it’s being unable to push back. Being unable to fight the bitch in life. Failing to surpass the darkness that fills the path of travel. 

“Stepping up. It's a simple concept. It basically means to rise above yourself; to do a little more, to show you something special. Life's funny sometimes; can push pretty hard like when you fall in love with someone but they forget to love you back, like when your best friend and your boyfriend leave you alone, like when you pull the trigger or light the flame and you can't take it back. Like I said, in sports they call this 'stepping up'. In life, I call it 'pushing back. But if you look close enough, you can find hope in the words of children, in the bars of the song and in the eyes of someone you love. And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.”

I don't know why I end my posts on such serious notes. Although I'm afraid if I ended a post, say this one with "We have bigger things to worry about in life than people leaving, like : "

Or

"Imagine what poor E.coli generating organic cucumbers are going through"

For those of you who know me, I'm sure you'll agree I look pathetic when I try to be funny. And for those of you who don't, well, you'll just have to take my word on this one. 

Anyway, Life is bound to get tough. All we got to do is take one step at a time, just be slow and cautious, not overdoing either one of them.

The Green Monster

What IT is
It eats you up. Slowly. Little by little. Starts off as a mild itch in the stomach and goes onto twist your intestines (more than they already are, or are they? I didn't pay much attention in anatomy class) and pull your guts out, literally in a few cases.

*That's where you laugh, I'm told.*

Get to know IT a little bit more
Jealousy is closely associated with the term possessiveness, but they're not the same. More about that on another post. *StartOfAlert* To say the least, please try not to use the term only with your lover (male or female, god I really have to explain myself ). It is highly misleading. *EndOfAlert* Often, when you hear someone say "God, I'm jealous of her. I can't believe they spend so much time together", you think that 'her' is causing some trouble in 'someone''s love life. No. He/she might be jealous of 'her' for the simple reason that the 'her' is good looking (better looking if the 'someone' we're talking about is a girl or "Oh god why don't I have a girlfriend like 'her'. Why does she have to be stuck with that loser" if it is a guy we're talking about). Or that 'her' might be getting closer to someone that 'someone' is close to, not necessarily a lover.
Confusing?

Hear the voices and pull them out
Wise man once said "Jealousy is all the fun you think they had". That's exactly what it is. It is most often an illusion one creates to make himself/herself feel worse, to drown in the pool of self-pity.

Jealousy is your mind screaming out loud "You ain't good enough. You're never going to be as good as him/her".
 You've heard the voices? Good. Now pull them out of your tiny head. Throw them out. 

Get yourself some good crack
The best way to feel good about yourself and worry less about the people you're jealous of is by having a hearty laugh.
Laugh at yourself. Laugh at the other person. Think about what you hate in that person (The thing you wish you had) and L.O.L. Crack some jokes about it. Make it seem as bad as you can.
NOTE: Do not try this in public. Do it alone. Or with a few close friends, if it'll help you more. I repeat, DO NOT try this in public. Any pain caused to you/anyone concerned, both physically and emotionally/mentally
- Not my problem.Thankyou.

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 "Jealousy is a tribute mediocrity pays to genius". Turn it around. Let that statement not eat you up.
After all, IT is what IT is. Moreover, what you make of IT.  Make IT small. Don't suppress IT. Strengthen IT, feed IT till you think IT is strong enough to face you. Then crush IT. Once and for all.

Goodluck Monster! You have an ugly way to go!

The moments we fail to capture

The beach.
"Calmness. A mixture of sadness and happiness"
                                                     -SK

"Calm. Happy. Family. Balloons.Lonely. Old people walking. Children rides. Lovers. Sea. Sand. Blue sky"
                                                                                    - M
"Peace. Humbled by greatness of nature."
                                              - NB

"Sand. Wind. Nice little stalls. Morning/evening walks (with dogs), kids playing, hangout spot for friends, amateur photographers, families on a picnic, musicians, street performers, people from all walks of life"
                                                                                - TJ

"I love the beach,the smell of the sea. Playing in the water. It makes me happy.Icecream.Sundal.Bajjis.Merry-go-round.Big waves." 
                                                          - SA

"Lonely. Still. Darkness. Dirt. Sticky sand. Amazing bajji. Creepy-crawly creatures. Struggling fishermen. Boats/ships at a distance carrying people who can't wait to get back to their family, and home. Pretentious happy people. A place to go when you're depressed, to feel even worse."
                                                                                                 - Me

My best friend is the most amazing photographer I've known. You will be reading about her in a few years, even paying her to capture few moments of happiness in your lives. (It will come true, you'll see)
This is a picture she took. (M photography. *Copyrights*)

When I see pictures like this, for the few seconds I look at it, I am forced to believe I am wrong about the way my thoughts go about. I am wrong about the beach. I am wrong about the darkness I surround the beach with. All I see is light, a man who loves what he does, effortlessly, single handed.




Its not just the beach. Think about 5 places/things you don't like much. Make a list of them if you can. Think about any person you know who happens to like those things. Why do you think they do? What is the image of it they have in their heads?
If they could capture the image, you could see for yourself. And learn to like it, or un-hate it to begin with.


I wish I had the patience or the passion to capture those significant moments, however tiny they might be, not with a camera, even virtually will do. If I could, I would feel happiness a whole lot more.  If I could picture that one still, calm, happy moment in the place I hate or about the things I don't like doing, for those miniscule seconds, I would experience a feeling of goodness. And the world won't seem like such a bad place after all.

Feel the Tree Hill

I have started a new post over 10 times (no exaggeration).  Finally feels like this is it. I hope so at least.
I've decided to write about the show I've loved for 5 years that has come to an end. Its time has indeed come, but its still hard to let go of something that has influenced you on a weekly basis, for so many years.
*Laugh out Loud*

 One Tree Hill

'Somebody told me that this is the place where everything's better and everything's safe.' 
One tree hill taught me how to never lose hope if you really truly want something, how to forgive and forget, how to overlook what other people say, how to be strong when your world is filled with darkness, and most of all, to believe in the magic of 'life'. 

1. The Connection
"My name is Lucas Scott. I'm a senior at Tree Hill High School. I play basketball -- at least I used to. I have a girlfriend -- at least I used to. And I have a best friend. Tree Hill is just a place somewhere in the world. Maybe it's a lot like your world, maybe it's nothing like it. But if you look closer, you might see someone like you. Someone trying to find their way. Someone trying to find their place. Someone trying to find their self. Sometimes it seems like you are the only one in the world who's struggling, who's frustrated, or unsatisfied, or barely getting by. But that feeling's a lie. And if you just hold on, just find the courage to face it all for another day, someone or something will find you and make it all okay. Because we all need a little help sometimes. Someone to help us hear the music in the world, to remind us that it won't always be this way. That someone is out there. And that someone will find you."
I didn't know those people, I never will. But I feel like I know those characters. Its funny really. Hilarious in fact.  If you have watched the show even for a few minutes, I am sure you would have found a character you connect with, or a single quality in any character. The emo ways of Peyton, the shopaholic Brooke, the calculative and cautious Haley. Or the kindness in Lucas, the fickle mindedness in Nathan, the humbleness in Keith, the arrogance in Dan.


2. The Music and The brilliant quotes in every episode
"You know I've got this theory, there are two kinds of people in the world. There are lyric people and music people. You know, the lyrics people tend to be analytical. You know, all about the meaning of the song. They're the ones you see with the CD insert out like 5 minutes after buying it, pouring over the lyrics, interpreting the hell out of everything. Um, then there’s the music people, like Brooke. Who could care less for the lyrics as long as its just got like a good beat and you could dance to it. I don’t know, sometimes it might be easier to be a music girl and not a lyric girl. But since I’m not, let me just say this. Sometimes things find you when you need them to find you, I believe that. And for me its usually song lyrics. "
What I loved most about One tree hill was the amazing bands they brought to the show, and how it went so well with the story. Gavin DeGraw, Fall out boy, The Joshua tree, Wakey!Wakey!, Tyler Hilton, Everly, Laura Izibor and a lot lot more. Not just that, its the songs that meant something that go on to create a permanent picture in the minds of people who love it.  Personally, the song that blended so perfectly was 'Hearbeats' by Jose Gonzalez. It was played in season 4, episode 9. It was the song Peyton sent to Lucas while he was on the bus, on his way to the championship game. It was replayed when they won the state championship. 'Its you, Peyton. The one I want standing next to me when all my dreams come true, its you.'- I can play the scene in my head and those dialogues, any time I want to. The chills it gave me the first time I saw it is indescribable.

3. Nathan Scott
"Almost Everything I Wish I'd Said The Last Time I Saw You"

The sole reason I continued watching this show after the nanny kidnapping Jamie, the dog eating the heart, Xavier attacking Brooke, that whole drama of Brooke adopting that girl. Those were one of the very few moments of OTH that made me think "Oh my god. What are they doing to this show". Well, that didn't stop me from watching this show every week, as always- NATHAN SCOTT. I would do anything to have a guy like Nathan. The perfect mix of a jerk and a gentleman. I doubt I can ever erase the image of him shooting the final basket (Ravens Vs. Oak Lake) without looking, while 'Unsatisfied' by Nine Black Alps is playing in the background and not to forget, the flawless smile he has got. And the time when he says "Don't say I never gave you anything" to Haley in Season 1 as well as in the last episode of Season 9.
"Always and Forever" 

The show that survived many obstacles, came to an end after 9 long seasons. A wonderful cast and crew. Here's to a show that made a difference, at least to me.